Many people think that the proof of love is sex. They think that by going ahead to have sex with the object of love, they show beyond reasonable doubt that they love that person. But for a lot of men, sex is just to satisfy their libido especially when there is no commitment in the relationship. So, the mere fact that you slept with that person does not necessarily mean you love yourselves. It is possible that the two of you were overwhelmed with emotions or lust and could not control yourselves.
Therefore, it is important to be aware of what you are doing before you go ahead to have sex with that individual. There is a saying that sex sells. Yes, sex sells, but in relationships, sex does not necessarily sell. You may sell sex and get someone to buy that sex, but it may just be a transaction with no other interests. When you sell sex and get a buyer, the buyer just came to buy what you were selling and when he/she is done with the purchase, he/she leaves the scene for good. When you decide to sell it again, the person may come back and purchase the sex again. You now have sex as more of a business transaction than just the evidence of love and affection.
These sex transactions have sent many young people to mental homes. They never thought they were selling their sex but that is what the other person thought. The other party thought it was just a transaction. So, when mutual satisfaction is achieved and the other person decides to part ways, one is hurt to the core because they thought it was proof of love and affection. So, since you have a choice of who you want to sell sex to, you should be careful and be sure that you have agreed that it is going to be proof of love, affection, and evidence that some forms of commitment have been done.
What do I mean by commitment? The parties must go beyond the rhetoric and act on their words of love/affection to each other. This means that the people involved must follow through with the processes of getting committed to each other. This means that they should introduce themselves to their respective families and do the needful. When this is done, then you are somehow sure that there is some commitment from both parties.
When you have sex after these commitments have been achieved, then you are sure that sex is not a commodity here. Even though some people may go this length just to have you on the bed, most of the time, you are sure that sex is not sold. Sex becomes a commodity when it is thought to be exchanged with love when in fact, it was just an item on the shelf ready to be purchased. Let us keep in mind that sex sells and those who are involved in these transactions know and they will go the long haul to get the sex item as part of their possessions. Therefore you must be careful to who you deliver your sex goods to so that you do not shortchange yourself.
Sex sells but the buyer has a choice.