Category: Motivation

Motivation write-ups

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Why are Christian marriages collapsing?

The reasons for the collapse of marriages within the Christian community, as with marriages in any other group, are complex and multifaceted. It’s important to recognise that not all Christian marriages are collapsing, and there are many thriving and successful marriages within the Christian community as well.

That being said, there are several factors that can contribute to the challenges faced by some Christian marriages:

  1. Changing societal norms: As society evolves, cultural attitudes towards marriage and relationships change. Factors such as increased individualism, changing gender roles, and shifting expectations can place strains on marriages.
  2. Lack of effective communication: Communication breakdown is a common issue in marriages, including Christian marriages. Poor communication can lead to misunderstandings, unresolved conflicts, and a lack of emotional connection between partners.
  3. Unrealistic expectations: Sometimes, individuals enter into marriages with unrealistic expectations, influenced by societal or religious beliefs. When these expectations are not met, it can lead to dissatisfaction and strain on the relationship.
  4. External stressors: Marriages can be affected by external pressures such as financial difficulties, work-related stress, health issues, or family conflicts. These stressors can place a significant burden on the relationship and contribute to its breakdown.
  5. Spiritual struggles: While faith can be a source of strength and support in a marriage, individuals within a Christian marriage may also experience personal spiritual struggles. These struggles can affect their relationship dynamics and lead to challenges in the marriage.
  6. Lack of support and resources: In some cases, couples may struggle due to a lack of support and resources within their church or religious community. Access to premarital counselling, marital counselling, and supportive networks can significantly impact the success of a marriage.

It’s important to recognise that these factors are not unique to Christian marriages and can affect marriages across different religious and cultural backgrounds. Successful marriages require effort, commitment, effective communication, and ongoing personal and relational growth.

It’s worth noting that there are also many Christian resources available, such as pastoral counselling, marriage seminars, and support groups, that aim to provide guidance and assistance to couples facing challenges in their marriages. Seeking professional help or utilising these resources can be beneficial for couples navigating difficulties in their relationship.

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The Death, Burial and Resurrection of Jesus

The death of Jesus on the cross is one of the most significant events in human history, and it continues to have an impact on the world today. For Christians, it is the ultimate expression of God’s love for humanity and is the foundation of our faith. It is believed that Jesus died on the cross as a sacrifice for the sins of humanity. This event is commemorated by Christians worldwide during the Holy Week, which leads up to Easter Sunday. The death of Jesus has been interpreted in many ways throughout history, but at its core, it is a story of sacrifice, love, and redemption.

The death of Jesus on the cross is viewed as the ultimate sacrifice. Christians believe that Jesus died on the cross to pay the penalty for the sins of humanity. This sacrifice was necessary to reconcile humanity with God. According to the Bible, all have sinned and come short of the glory of God. Humans are born with a sinful nature and are separated from God. However, through the death of Jesus on the cross, humanity can be reconciled with God and receive the gift of salvation.

Theologians have long debated the exact nature of Jesus’ sacrifice, but it is generally agreed that it was an act of love and selflessness. Jesus willingly gave up his life for the sake of others, and his death is seen as a powerful symbol of God’s love for humanity.

The crucifixion of Jesus was a brutal and painful event. Jesus was stripped, beaten, and forced to carry his cross to the place of execution. He was then nailed to the cross and left to die. The crucifixion was a common method of execution in the Roman Empire, but it was reserved for the worst criminals. The fact that Jesus was crucified shows the extent of his suffering and sacrifice.

It is a reminder of the lengths that God was willing to go to show his love for humanity. This is why you should not let this Easter season pass without benefiting from the crucifixion of Jesus. God’s love for humankind is huge, and we have no excuse to reject His love.

While the death of Jesus on the cross is a significant event, it is not the end of the story. Christians believe that Jesus rose from the dead three days after his crucifixion. History confirms that Jesus rose from the dead on the third day. This event, known as the resurrection, is the foundation of the Christian faith. Through the resurrection, Christians believe that Jesus conquered death and made eternal life possible.

The resurrection of Jesus is a powerful symbol of hope and new life. It is a reminder that death is not the end, and that through faith in Jesus, eternal life is possible. The resurrection is celebrated each year by Christians worldwide during Easter, and it is a time to reflect on the power of God’s love and the hope it brings.

The death of Jesus on the cross has had a profound impact on the world, and it continues to inspire and challenge people today. It is a reminder of the power of love, sacrifice, and redemption and a symbol of the hope that is possible through faith. Have you given your life to Jesus and accepted His offer of love for you? Contact me if you are ready to accept this great offer of love from God. God bless you.

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Why Attitude is Everything?

Attitude is everything. It is the driving force behind the success or failure of an individual. Attitude is not just a state of mind but an expression of the values and beliefs that shape our behaviour. Our attitude determines our perception of the world, and it can either hold us back or propel us towards success.

Having a positive attitude is essential for success. It helps us overcome challenges, take risks and learn from our mistakes. A positive attitude provides us with the resilience needed to bounce back from setbacks and pursue our goals with renewed vigour. In contrast, a negative attitude can be a self-fulfilling prophecy, leading us to give up before we even try.

The power of attitude can be seen in the example of successful individuals. They all share a common trait – an unwavering positive attitude. They believe in themselves and their abilities, and this is reflected in their work. They are not afraid to take risks and are willing to put in extra effort to achieve their goals.

On the other hand, individuals with a negative attitude are often stuck in a cycle of self-doubt and fear. They are quick to give up on their dreams and are easily discouraged by setbacks. Their negative attitude can be a significant barrier to success.

The importance of attitude extends beyond just personal success. It also affects our relationships with others and our overall well-being. A positive attitude can help us build strong relationships based on trust, respect, and mutual support. It can also improve our mental and physical health by reducing stress and increasing our resilience to illness.

One way to cultivate a positive attitude is to focus on gratitude. By recognising and appreciating the good things in our lives, we can shift our perspective towards positivity. Another way is to practice self-care and make time for activities that bring us joy and fulfilment.

It’s important to note that cultivating a positive attitude does not mean ignoring or suppressing negative emotions. It’s natural to experience negative emotions like anger, sadness, or frustration. However, a positive attitude means acknowledging these emotions and finding healthy ways to cope with them.

In summary, attitude is everything when it comes to achieving success and maintaining a fulfilling life. It affects our personal success, relationships, and overall well-being. By cultivating a positive attitude, we can overcome obstacles, take risks, and pursue our goals with renewed vigour.

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Why Habits are difficult to form?

At the beginning of the year, most people plan to change and form new habits to transform their lives. But these decisions fail because of the long-term benefits or otherwise of these habits.

When we decide to make the change and the new habit more enjoyable now. When we enjoy some of the benefits attached to our habits now, there is the highest probability that we will stick with the habit. When there are no rewards attached to the habits we are forming, it is difficult to follow through and few people can form new habits.

Consistency is overrated when forming new habits. Our lives are more complicated and sometimes we may miss our routines for the day. The important thing is not to miss them for long periods. We have to plan to quickly continue with our routine when we have the opportunity. We may miss our routine sometimes and the keyword is sometimes and not all the time.

We must anticipate the barriers ahead before we start working on the habits we want to form. Change is always difficult, but when we decide to reward ourselves whenever we make little progress, it can help us achieve the habit goals we’ve set for ourselves. Pat yourself at the back when you achieve some of your habit goals and do not give us when you miss some days.

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The Irony of Planting Trees but Selling Forests

The world talks about climate change and many countries have started working toward doing something to reduce the speed of climate change. The United Nations and its agencies make it look like the only way to sustain the world is through the reduction or elimination of activities that affect climate change. The argument of some governments is that any activity that introduces more dangerous gases into the atmosphere should be curtailed with immediate effect. We see some governments making efforts in planting more trees with even special days set aside for only planting trees.

In my own country Ghana, whilst they shout to people to plant trees, agencies of government are also selling forests for mining purposes. Some forest reserves are even sold for building purposes and are becoming a concern to the people. We sell vast forests and plant few trees to satisfy ourselves that we are doing something to deal with climate change. We are obsessed with using every available means to get money including selling important forest reserves for personal gains. Corruption has clouded the minds of appointees of governments in such a way that they are unable to think straight when they are confronted with huge sums of money and the destruction of natural reserves. 

A nation with over 70% Christians has become a laughing stock because of how endemic corruption has become. The fruit of these Christians is not seen because they have refused to bear any useful fruit. They are concerned with capturing the land rather than bearing fruits. The Christian in us is only seen during church services on Sunday and the other side of our lives shows up. We praise God on Sundays and serve the devil’s interest the rest of the day. We are gradually becoming people with no conscience. 

Why have we taken the grace of God for granted? This cannot continue forever. We cannot kill our conscience and still expect the blessings of God to fall on us. I think that we must remember that money, property and things, in general, can make us comfortable but miserable. Stealing to get rich will destroy you. Cheating and corrupting yourself to get wealth will bring shame and dishonour to you. Driving beautiful cars and living in big mansions gotten through corruption will bring pain and anguish.

Many government appointees do not deserve the word honourable. They have dishonoured themselves through their actions and wanton stealing from the public purse. They call themselves honourable and will kill if that word is not used when addressing them, but know in their heart that they are not close to the word honourable. 

Let’s move away from the politicians and come home. You are the Director who has decided to sit on an employee’s promotion because she refused to sleep with you. You are that Lecturer who failed that female student because she rejected your proposal. You are that man whose main goal is to “devirginate” ladies and excite yourself as an expert in that. The list can go on and on. Ironically, all these people also complain that the government is corrupt. They leave their corruption to complain about what is happening in the government. 

If we can all decide to do the right in the corner where we find ourselves, this country would make progress. As it stands now, we are hypocritically greedy people who care less about the progress of the country. The irony again is that we seem to be very religious with the support of their supposed shepherds. We cannot pretend to be planting trees but selling forests, it will come back and hunt us and the generation unborn. May God have mercy on us. 

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Five Steps to Improve your Relationship with your Spouse

When we leave our marriages on autopilot, we may crash the whole marriage. We have to be intentional about improving our relationship with our spouses. Let’s consider these five steps to help improve our relationship with our spouses.

  1. See the Need to Improve your Relationship

When you do not realise the need for improvement, you may not seek it. This may require some introspection. Examine the current state of your relationship with your spouse and see whether you are really at the level you want it to be. Do you resent your spouse’s job now? Are you angry about small issues like “so much salt or sugar in your food”? Money issues are big issues now and you are always angry about the way your spouse handles money in your relationship? These and others may be small things that can become great if not addressed and resolved early in your marriage.

  1. Improve your Knowledge

Constant learning always changes our mindset and improves expected outcomes. You may have to educate yourself and know more about yourself and how to handle the challenges you are going through. Read about the challenges you are facing in your relationship. Seek help if needed or talk to a licensed marriage counsellor or a marriage coach.

  1. Join like-minded Groups

Sometimes joining like-minded groups with strict privacy rules and sharing ideas can help you manage and even resolve the challenges you are facing in your relationship. You can decide to join a book club to read and discuss the contents of the book, which may enhance your marriage. 

  1. Decide to Change

Sometimes we know everything about how to make our relationship work but fail to act on them. Knowing and acting are two different things. If we have all the knowledge, go for all the counselling and coaching and read and discuss all the books but fail to act, it would not benefit our marriage. Decide to act on the things you know.

  1. Be Committed

Commitment wanes after some years if we are not conscious of it. Many people are in relationships and they have removed their best foot and left the weak foot in that marriage. We have to be committed to that marriage and make sure we are doing our best for the success of the marriage. We are the success or the failure of the relationship and we need some form of commitment to succeed.

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Dealing with Fear

Many people have been restricted and bogged down by fear. I am one of them. Until recently, I was afraid of speaking in public, pursuing my dream, and doing what I enjoy most. My fear was who would be interested in what I do. Can I become the best at what I enjoy doing? Can I become financially independent and take good care of my family? These fears were there but thank God I am free from them now. I am doing what I like to do even if one person decides to follow me and buy my services.

You can also overcome your fear. Indeed, jobs are limited. There are many graduates who are walking on the streets looking for jobs. But you can be the exception. You can start your own business or get your dream job. It all depends on you. You hold your own success. The fears you feel can keep you in bondage. The fear that no one will call to attend any interview. The fear that you would not achieve your childhood dreams. The fear that you are not enough. 

We are products of self-thoughts and prophecies. The fact is that you are more than enough to pursue and achieve all your dreams. I am pursuing my dreams. Do not let any fear cripple you. Move despite the fear. We all feel fear when we are embarking on a new venture. We want to know the outcome of our actions. We want to be sure of the results before we start. But that is not possible. We must act and move by faith. Despite the fear, put in that application, chase that scholarship, start that business, do something, and do not stay idle. Fear will always be there but despite it, we will pursue our goals and achieve them. God is our helper. God bless.

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Don’t Look for Outside Approval

External approval sometimes feels good and makes us look like we are doing something great. But external approval cannot be controlled. We do not have control over who approves our work or worth. Seeking external approval may lead to disappointment. People should not be our focus for approval. 

Internal approval must be focused on. We must have the habit of motivating ourselves. When we do not even receive any external approval, because we have the capacity to motivate ourselves, we can go ahead to achieve whatever we want in life. Internal approval comes from within when we know our worth and our relevance. 

At the workplace, know your contribution and be motivated by the service you are providing. When we do not receive any commendation from anyone, we are already aware of our worth and this does a lot to affect our contribution to the organisation. Many forces will fight against our self-worth, but we should have the ability to generate internal motivation for ourselves and help us achieve the goal we have set for ourselves. 

Self-motivation must be our choice. This would make us focus on what we do and forget about external influences. We must keep our focus on the target we have set for ourselves and decide to work to get to that target. There is no to worry about observers who have no contribution to your life and well-being. Do not look for any outside approval. 

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Keep a Good Work Ethic

When I was applying for jobs, I was desperate, I needed a job, and I wanted one as soon as possible. So, when you are in that state of searching for a job, you write so many wonderful things in your CV/resume. We say that we are hardworking, diligent, innovative, creative, etc. We give ourselves all these good adjectives just to get the job that we desire.

We immediately forget about all these nice adjectives when we eventually get a job. But I think that we must remember the things we wrote in our CV when we were looking for that employment.

It is important we remember them because they can make us maintain our job and even rise through the ranks faster. Keeping a good work ethic will also build our own character and attitude. When we form a bad attitude towards work, it will definitely affect us in the future. Keep a good work ethic to maintain your job.

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Everything is Figureoutable

Speaking in public was a hell of a deal for me when I was in Senior High School. But I figured it out eventually and it is no longer a big deal. There is nothing impossible. When we examine whatever seems complex very well, we should be able to break down the whole complex structure into a simple and doable task. We must get into our subconscious mind that everything is figureoutable.

Sometimes we see life as overly complex, but I am here to tell you that everything is figureoutable. When I first saw this statement, I thought about it and realised that it was true. Nothing is too complex to deal with. If we can take some time to examine every situation, we would realised we can figure it out.