Comparing your Spouse to Others

It is wrong to start comparing your spouse with other people. Everyone possesses some unique characteristics. We do not have the same strengths and weaknesses. You saw beauty and handsomeness when you first met your spouse. Therefore, it is wrong to start comparing your spouse with another person. 

A person’s outward beauty may be different from their internal beauty. When we are far off, we only see the beautiful part of people and rarely see the bad side. What we sometimes see may not be a true reflection of the person’s character. We only get to know the real person when we come close. Therefore, we can see all the faults in our spouses but can only see the good in others.

It is unfair to compare your spouse with whom you sleep and do everything with others. These other people are unknown to you. You only know a little about these people and you are quick to compare. 

The woman you married is the most beautiful person to you. You must never compare her with any other woman especially when you are part of who she is today. You have played a key role in her life as a husband, and you need to appreciate her for staying and being a helper to you. Respect her and do her the honour of not comparing her with any woman. She is special and different from whoever you want to compare her with.

The man you married is the most handsome person you can find. You accepted his proposal and decided to marry him.  He has been the head of the family and does his best to take care of the family. The stress of being in the physical and spiritual head is enough, do not in any way compare him with any person. He is unique and must be treated with respect. You are part of who he is today and therefore have no business comparing him with other people. He is special and different from all other men.

We will be wise men and women when we decide to stop comparing our spouses with other couples. God bless you.