Children are gifts from God. I see children as gifts God has promised to give His children. When someone promises you a gift, you do not get angry when the gift is not yet in your hands. Especially, when you know that the one who has promised has never failed in His promise before. God cannot lie. So, if this God has promised you a gift of a baby, you just must be patient and wait for that gift.
Many marriages are being stressed because they are yet to have children. We play the blame game and accuse the woman as the cause of not having a child yet. Couples waiting for the fruit of the womb must understand that fighting and accusations would not solve the problem. We need to stay together and work this out together. If you are a Christian couple, then there is hope for you.
First things first, we must be sure that there are no health issues to be resolved. Therefore, it is important to visit a specialist to assess your situation. If there is an underlying health condition, we need to deal with it. This is not for the wife only. The husband and wife must visit the specialist together and go through a medical examination together. Our culture makes it look like the woman is always the cause of childlessness. But this is not true. I repeat the man must lead this charge and go with the wife to see the doctor.
When we have seen the doctor and we are sure there are no health problems, then we can both wait on God and expect the gift He promised. It is not fun being in a situation like this, but it is also wrong to be pointing accusing fingers, and blaming each other. The solution lies in the couple fighting together. Two are better than one. The woman can never fight this alone, neither the man.
There is always no guarantee that the person you are about to marry will bear a child but if the two decide to hold to the promises of God, their heart desires would be met.