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When Circumstances are Opposite Your Confession

We are faced with several challenges in this thing called life. Sometimes, we go through disappointments, we get into certain unfavourable situations, but God expects us to maintain a faith confession. Problems and life’s challenges come to both the Christian and the unbeliever. This is life and we are not exempted from them just because we are Christians.

The good thing is that we have hope. There is hope for the believer and we need to be hopeful all the time. We cannot drown in sadness and fear as we go through life’s challenges. Nothing is important than our attitude when we are facing these challenges, disappointments, and failures. Our attitude should be that of a positive expectation. The expectation that this is not here to stay, it shall definitely pass.

We are born champions but that does not mean that we will not go through problems. When you know you are a champion going through a temporary situation, your attitude should be like someone fighting from the point of victory. We need not walk around with displaced faces making everyone know what we are going through.

Maybe your promotion has delayed and you are even not sure of its success, God is still on the throne. Did you just receive a negative diagnosis, God is still the Healer. Have been jobless for so long, God can still transform your life and give you the job that you desire. Maybe, your husband or your wife just left you, and you are confused about the next step, God can still mend the brokenhearted. Maybe your fiancé or fiancee left you, God can still give you another love of your life. There is nothing God cannot do.

In the immediate, it may be difficult, but we need to cheer up and rise up. Our Father is still on the throne helping His children in every situation.

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Stop the Classification of Sin

We have managed to classify sin into various categories for various reasons. This makes us somewhat feel better when comparing ourselves with the other person. The liar thinks that the fornicator is the greatest sinner. Fornicators think that the LGBTQ+ group are the greatest sinners. The one who is maltreating the partner thinks the divorced is the greatest sinner and the divorced thinks that the remarried is the greatest sinner. The petty thief thinks that the armed robber is the greatest sinner. 

When we compare our sins with others, it makes us feel better and assume that our sin is not grievous. This make us feel good in our sins. Why should you even compare? The Bible says that those who compare themselves with others are not wise. This is because you will always be better than someone but it does not mean that you are good. Christians have become judges in their own eyes. We acquit and discharge based on our myopic assessment. We also condemn based on our own assessment and not what is written in the Bible.

For us to feel good, we easily condemn others and assume that we will never get act that way. We make it difficult for the guilty to change and come back to Christ. We make it almost impossible for the sinner to accept the grace of God. We are all servants working for one Master.  The best we can do is to help the other servants who are struggling to serve the Master. We have no business condemning our fellow servants.

Again, we are all children trying to please our Father. You do not turn to criticise and condemn your brother or sister because he/she displeased the Father. We help each other to achieve the ultimate goal of pleasing our Father. When we become obsessed with other people’s life more than our own, we see ourselves as the most holy and others as the most vile. All sinners shall have their part in … But the love of the Father is so enormous, His grace is still available, His mercies are never failing, let us enjoy the love, grace and mercy of our Father and extend same to all children and servants of the Father. God bless you.

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Choose the Faith Side

We always have a choice as to the kind of path we want to take in this life. There are two main sides when we face life challenges. The faith side and the fear side.

What is the fear side? The fear side looks like the real deal, the truth and the fact. The fear side makes you feel like you are being human. 

When I do not have money, the fear side will say I am broke. That may the truth and the fact. The fear side is always against the word of God. 

The Bible says let the poor says I am rich. Yes, the fact is you do not have money but you say the opposite of it because you know that you get whatever you say. We say negative things and we are surprised when bad things happen to us. 

I choose the faith side. I choose to say I am rich when nothing shows. I choose to say I am strong when there is no evidence to that effect. I always choose the God side. God does not say anything negative. I choose faith and I am on the side of God. 

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Fight for your Marriage 1

We are excited when we are about to get married. We show love and concern to our object of love at anytime. But when we eventually marry, what happens next. The main work begins after the wedding and when the minister pronounces us as husband and wife. This is where the fight begins. I am using fight because the devil, the enemy of our soul also begins to fight that marriage with the plan to collapse and destroy it. This is why we must fight back.

I do not believe that the person we married not long ago can suddenly become our arch enemy and we would not want to live with the person anymore. God want us to stay together and enjoy the marriage. Offences would come but we should not allow these offences to degenerate into hatred. When we claim to be children of God, then we have a responsibility to make the marriage work. This is because we are ambassadors for Christ. We need to represent our Maker and Father well on this earth.

Two totally different people living together will be challenging. We must decide that we would make our home heaven on earth. As a man, I have the responsibility to love my wife, respect her opinions and strive to make her happy and comfortable. I believe that most of the time, the success of the marriage depends on the man. If we can respect and honour our wives, they will also respect and honour us. As people of faith, we have to display our light for others to see. If we as Christians are unable to treat our wives or husbands with honour and respect, how are we going to impact our generation.

We as light of the world must shine in our marriages. Our prayers would not be answered if we treat our wives/husbands with disdain. The Bible is clear on this. Let us be intentional about how our partners feel in the marriage. The feelings and opinions of our wives are very important. If they feel unloved, insecure, unprotected and not cared for, no matter how active we are in the things of God, we have either failed or about to fail in the marriage.

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Do not verbalise your negative thoughts

Thoughts are real. When we think about great thoughts and speak them, we bring those thoughts to life. Thoughts that are not verbalised stay inactive and do not come to life. If we want to achieve what God has planned for us, then we must be aware of the kind of thoughts we have and ensure that we either speak them out or keep them there as thoughts. 

Thoughts are real and we give them power when we begin to speak them out. When you feel sick and say with your mouth that you are feeling sick, they become reality. This is what most people do not understand. God left creation on earth to man and asked us to continue. Let us consider how God created the world. The world was created with words. God said and the thing appeared. Words are very powerful. Death and life are in the power of the tongue and those who love it shall eat the fruit thereof. So the words of our mouth have creative power. This is why we should not speak out negative things. When negative thoughts flood our minds, we must discipline ourselves not to speak them out. When we speak them out, we give them power to operate. 

This is why the Word of God says, let the weak say I am strong and let the poor say I am rich. When you say you are poor, you will become poor. Some people think that by saying your current state, you are being real. But God want us to talk faith. The fact may be that you do not have money but do not say you are poor. Faith the facts. Speak what you want to become and not your present state. God calls those things that be not as though they were. We have to behave like our father in heaven. He is a faith God and we should have the God-kind of faith. God bless you.

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Committed but not Committed

In any relationship, there is bound to be some form of commitment one way or the other. We are expected to sacrifice for the relationship to grow and become better. It would be surprising if there is a relationship where there is no form of sacrifice and the two parties are all trying to avoid every form of sacrifice. Commitment is important for two people to stay together and more importantly when it is a romantic relationship. So there must be some form of commitment in any romantic relationship. What are some of the forms of commitment?

In a relationship, there is bound to be some financial commitment. Financial commitment is a way of proving that you love your significant other. Love gives and love will spend on the object of love. We show love to our object of love. It would be surprising to find any relationship where there is no form or display of love and affection financially. One way or the other, one would have to spend money on the object of love. Taking the person to the restaurant and paying is a way of showing love. It would be strange to find a young man in the Ghanaian culture who takes a lady out and expect the lady to pay part of the cost of the outing. You plan for such outings and that includes money. But if that gentleman request that you foot part of the bill, then it shows that he is not really interested in the relationship and he is just taking you for the ride. So there should be some form of financial commitment, buying call credits and internet data to communicate with the one you love is part of the cost you incur. Occasionally, (like Valentine day and birthdays) buying gifts to surprise one another also makes the relationship grow and proves that you love each other. There should be exchange of gifts. These are some of the financial commitments you bear when you are in a romantic relationship.

But there is a limit to the amount of money to spend on the object of love. In as much, it is important to commit some financial resources to the relationship, it is unwise to spend huge sums of money on the person. For example, you do not want to buy the current version of a smart phone (iPhone 12 Pro Max) just because she want to change her phone. But if it becomes necessary that she get a new phone due to an issue with her current phone and you are in the position to do that, yes love gives, you can help with that. But it would not be the best to be spending so much money on him/her just because you decided to spend time with each other to know yourselves better. So the clause is not to spend too much and sometimes go to the extent of borrowing to impress the other person. Yes, some people can even borrow to spend on the person they love. Remember that there is no free lunch, if the person is spending so much before you say I do, he/she may have an agenda and sooner or later may execute that agenda.

Another form of commitment may be time. To make the relationship grow, you need to spend time with each other. This does not mean that you spend all the 24hours with the person. Spending time does not mean that you do that to the detriment of your job or academic life. Some people decide to spend all the time with the person and even forget that they are students or forget that they are employees and must work to get paid. So spending is important but this should not affect other aspects of our lives.

Some ladies immediately arrogate to themselves the position of a wife and begin to act as such. As a lady, do not start doing wifey duties. Some ladies go to the extent of washing and cooking for the person regularly. The keyword here is regularly. If once in a while it becomes necessary to cook for him or even wash, why not. But when these things become your daily routine, it is called over-commitment which is dangerous. You can do all these things when you finally say I do to him. So if he want those services, then let him go and pay the dowry and do the needful, otherwise, hold on to these services until the needful is done.

Another form of commitment is the decision to prove your love by having sex. Many people have been deceived into thinking that by merely having sex with the person solidifies the relationship. This is a lie from the pit of hell. Sex before marriage can destroy the relationship. Do not prove your love by having sex with the person before the marriage. When you get your body involved in the relationship, you set yourself up for disappointment and broken heart. I know I am treading on dangerous grounds but that is the fact. When you have sex, you destroy the foundation of trust before the marriage that is if the relationship eventually leads to marriage. Keep your pants up and do not allow anybody pull them down to prove that you love them.

So, commit but do not over-commit some things. Commit your time, commit some amount of money but, do not commit high expenditures and do not commit your body. Stay pure in that relationship. God will help you. God bless you.

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An Accountable Partner

Accountable Partner

Many Christian youths are in romantic relationships. Sadly, these relationships have gone beyond the limit where they have already had several sexual encounters with their partners. Fortunately, they are not happy with the state of the relationship because of the frequent sexual encounters. They want to stop having sex all the time but are unable. The devil would always want to keep you in that state and will always remind you that everybody is doing it so do not worry, it is normal. But you know in your heart that it is not normal, you are not happy whenever you have sex with the person you claim to love.

Many people have been deceived to think that it is normal to sleep or have sex when you love someone. Yes, let me be frank here, it is normal for people who are not Christians. This is because if you are not a Christian, it is very normal to have sex because you need to do things that please your father-the devil. So it is normal to have sex when not a believer, but irrespective of whether you are a Christian or not, the consequence of sleeping with that person before saying I do is still there and dire. If the relationship doesn’t work, you always feel cheated and used because you have committed so much by offering your body on the altar of sacrifice. Jesus has already given the ultimate sacrifice and you have no business sacrificing your body for the sake of love to the yet-to-be qualified person. But many people in relationships are proving their love by having sex with their object of love. This is rather unfortunate.

But it is a different thing altogether when you are a Christian. When Christians have sex with people they are not supposed to, they may feel bad, dirty, and guilty. My focus here is on these people. If you can have sex with anybody and you do not see anything wrong, you are on a different planet and I will advise you to reconsider that lifestyle, assess yourself and see whether you have a future with that kind of lifestyle. If you are a Christian, then you may have to consider surrendering anew your life to Jesus.

Now let me come back to the main thing. I was saying that if you want to stop having sex with the person you claim to love, I have just one solution. It is only one solution. This solution has been tested and tried. This solution will not replace you surrendering your life to God, personal prayer life, Bible reading, and the Holy Spirit’s help to you. But this is just an additional help.

I had a friend in the university who eventually found herself in a very precarious situation. She accepted the proposal of this young man whom she loved so much. They could not stay away from each other and committed the pardonable sin (i.e., had sex with the person). The sexual encounter continued whenever the young lady visited the gentleman. The gentleman had no roommate so you can imagine what was happening anytime the lady went visiting. But the good thing was that the lady was not happy with the sexual escapades. Yes, it was sweet and pleasurable. Bread eaten in secret is sweet but … The end of eating poisoned bread is certain. She wanted to stop the act of sex with immediate effect. I advised her to stop visiting the gentleman in his room and also expect that the relationship may come to an end because it was built on the wrong foundation. The foundation was faulty and had no future. So the lady stopped going for visits. This affected the relationship and there was a break-up. But the good thing was that the lady became free and got back with her relationship with God. Our relationship with God must be taken more seriously than any other relationship. When she eventually told someone about the whole thing, she had help and became free. Unless you are happy with what you are doing, I submit to you the power of a third party. The Bible says, Confess your faults one to another.

You need someone who can help deal with the situation. You see when a third party knows of your escapades, it can help you put a stop to it. Do not be deceived to think that everybody is in the same boat. NO. You need help and you must seek help. At this point, you have to be selfish and seek help out of that regular sex you have been having with the person who has not paid your dowry yet. You having sex together is not pleasing and glorifying God. Yes, it is fun having sex, but your conscience is always dealing with you and you know you are doing something wrong. You are active in church and in the things of God, but this is breaking you. Seek help! Get to someone who can help you. This is what I call, an ACCOUNTABLE PARTNER; someone who will ‘judge’ you but is ready to help you overcome this challenge and get you out of it by the grace of God and by the help of the Holy Spirit. When this person spoke with me, that was the end of the problem. The key thing was that she was not happy. If you are happy with the whole situation, then, continue to enjoy but remember that whatever you sow, you will reap.

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When Faith is Sometimes Meaningless

Faith

Faith is the belief in a higher source of power to change the current state of things in our lives. This sometimes does not seem rational to human reasoning. Why do you expect a change in your health when the expert has given you a diagnosis based on scientific evidence? Faith is sometimes foolishness and it does not seem normal to the human mind. 

But I believe that we all have faith one way or the other. This is because we do not ask for the driver’s licence when we are boarding a public transport. We believe that the driver is a certified one and do not ask for any evidence to that effect. We have faith the pilot has been properly trained and has been given the certificate to fly planes. We do not ask for the certificate of the pilot before we embark. We do not ask for the carpenter who built the chair before we sit on it. We trust the restaurant to prepare the food in a hygienic environment. We believe that the active ingredients in the drug as stated on the box is actually there in the drug. So we have some form of faith to live on this earth.

Can we also have faith for divine healing when we receive a damning diagnosis? Can we have faith for prompt payment of all our bills? Can we have faith to pass that examination even though we could not answer the questions as expected? Can we have faith to receive a child when we do not have a womb? Can we have faith to father a child when our sperm count is below the required? These examples may seem daunting but they are possible. We can have faith to receive whatever we want in life. It may not be on our terms and according to our timing but I believe it is possible because there is a God in heaven who can do all things. 

I believe that everything is possible to him that believes. If we can believe, then it can be possible. Our faith may be abnormal. Our faith may be crazy. Our faith may be meaningless. But we have acted in faith in certain situations in our lives before and we can always activate that kind of faith to receive anything in this life. 

God is looking to those who can have faith in Him. If we believe that God exists and He has all power and might as we sing in our songs, then we must trust in His ability to provide all our needs. He is our father. Fathers provide for their children. Fathers protect their children. Fathers care for their families. Fathers will do everything possible to ensure that their sick child get the needed help. This is why I do not believe in a father who would intentionally put diseases on his children to teach them a lesson. What kind of father is that? A father who would intentionally make his children go hungry to punish them cannot be called a good father. Fathers want to see their children to progress in life. Fathers want their children to be in good health. Fathers are happy when they see their children achieving great heights in life.

If God is your father, then He is a good father. We need to have faith in our father. He is interested in our welfare and will do everything possible to help us get to our destinations. Let us remember that faith in our father in heaven will be rewarded. He is a faithful father who never disappoints. He always has our best interests at heart. He is again a good father.

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SEX SELLS BUT YOU HAVE A CHOICE

Many people think that the proof of love is sex. They think that by going ahead to have sex with the object of love, they show beyond reasonable doubt that they love that person. But for a lot of men, sex is just to satisfy their libido especially when there is no commitment in the relationship. So, the mere fact that you slept with that person does not necessarily mean you love yourselves. It is possible that the two of you were overwhelmed with emotions or lust and could not control yourselves.

Therefore, it is important to be aware of what you are doing before you go ahead to have sex with that individual. There is a saying that sex sells. Yes, sex sells, but in relationships, sex does not necessarily sell. You may sell sex and get someone to buy that sex, but it may just be a transaction with no other interests. When you sell sex and get a buyer, the buyer just came to buy what you were selling and when he/she is done with the purchase, he/she leaves the scene for good. When you decide to sell it again, the person may come back and purchase the sex again. You now have sex as more of a business transaction than just the evidence of love and affection.

These sex transactions have sent many young people to mental homes. They never thought they were selling their sex but that is what the other person thought. The other party thought it was just a transaction. So, when mutual satisfaction is achieved and the other person decides to part ways, one is hurt to the core because they thought it was proof of love and affection. So, since you have a choice of who you want to sell sex to, you should be careful and be sure that you have agreed that it is going to be proof of love, affection, and evidence that some forms of commitment have been done.

What do I mean by commitment? The parties must go beyond the rhetoric and act on their words of love/affection to each other. This means that the people involved must follow through with the processes of getting committed to each other. This means that they should introduce themselves to their respective families and do the needful. When this is done, then you are somehow sure that there is some commitment from both parties.

When you have sex after these commitments have been achieved, then you are sure that sex is not a commodity here. Even though some people may go this length just to have you on the bed, most of the time, you are sure that sex is not sold. Sex becomes a commodity when it is thought to be exchanged with love when in fact, it was just an item on the shelf ready to be purchased. Let us keep in mind that sex sells and those who are involved in these transactions know and they will go the long haul to get the sex item as part of their possessions. Therefore you must be careful to who you deliver your sex goods to so that you do not shortchange yourself.

Sex sells but the buyer has a choice.

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Be Faithful in the Relationship

Faithfulness in a relationship is very important. I am amazed why some people are unable to stay with a spouse till death but decide to try uncharted waters. God want us to be faithful to Him as his children. We expect our children to be faithful to us all the time. We do not want our children to start cheating. When children start cheating on their parents, they are seen as bad children.

As parents, we want our wards to be committed to us and follow our instructions. We become worried when our instructions are disobeyed and flouted with no respect for us. Parents do not want their children to be cheats but their actions sometimes teach the children to be cheats. Our children observe what we do than what we say.

We have to stay faithful to our spouses. We said those vows in the presence of God and His witnesses and we must abide by those vows. God is faithful and He expects faithfulness from all His children. Faithfulness is expected in any relationship and we must make it a point to be counted when the faithful ones are called. God bless you.